At the beginning of summer, when I started dreaming up the vision for Sad Girls Club, I did not realize the energetics we’d all be immersed in when September rolled around.
I had no idea that myself, and everyone around me, would be swirling through a season of deep and potent transformation.
Shedding, releasing, reorienting, and beginning anew.
I feel like when we hear the word transformation tossed around, it has a tendency to sound alluring…
like something we want to do or achieve, to get to the other side… closer towards our goals and dreams, or feelings of peace and liberation.
But the truth is, at least for me, transformation has never felt this way. It’s never been something I can predict, plan, or strategize.
It’s not something I can pinpoint… like “nice! I’m now done transforming… I’ve arrived” lol.
To me, transformation is rarely in our control; it’s something that happens in its own time, in its own way.
Even if there’s a firm date or decision involved (like starting a new job, getting a divorce, or giving birth on X date), the transformations were initiated long before, and continue long after, any definitive calendar dates.
The truth is, we’re always in a state of change.
In some seasons, transformation feels more subtle… like the shedding of old skin that naturally falls away, revealing something fresh and new underneath the surface.
Sometimes we are shedding and shifting in such gentle ways that we only notice the changes in hindsight.
But sometimes, transformation punches us in the gut… a heavy blow that leaves us short of breath, as the realization dawns that life will never be the same again. We are forced to walk forward in uncharted territory — often disoriented in the dark as we try to find our footing again.
Sometimes, transformation feels like walking in shoes that are 2 sizes too small. We know we need to change, we know we’ve outgrown where we’re at… but something keeps us staying put, in the comfort and safety of what feels known and familiar. We feel that we are being called to expand, to grow, but perhaps we’re not even sure how or where or when.
And almost always, whatever your fragrance of transformation in this season of life, we feel fear. We feel resistance, uncertainty, and moments of doubt. We feel grief and sadness and faith and hope. We question ourselves and our path, and then we remember to pick ourselves back up again.
I have found, over and over again, that when we’re in a season of rapid change; when we’re trying or starting new chapters in our lives; when we’re shedding and letting go of past versions of ourselves; when we’re releasing relationships that no longer serve us; when we’re forced to say goodbye to those we love; when we’re looking for fresh inspiration and full-body replenishment…
The most nurturing medicine is connecting with those who are moving through their own seasons of change, release, and growth.
The most supportive medicine is pouring back into yourself by being seen and held in whatever you’re moving through. By taking care of your body in gentle and loving ways.
I’ve walked the lone wolf path before. I’ve spent (years) in hermit mode; trying to analyze and solve my own problems. There’s nothing wrong with that, if that’s what you need. I’m grateful for my hermit time because it allowed me to reconnect and understand myself on a very deep level.
But the most potent accelerators of growth & healing happened for me when I found my community. When I found other women who saw and understood me. When I found spaces where we could share and learn from one another in real and raw ways.
This is what Sad Girls Club is all about.
Sad Girls Club isn’t a space for “quick-fix” healing. No one is going to tell you what to do or how to live or who to be.
It’s not a space to glamorize transformation or to promise that by the end, you’ll achieve XYZ result.
Sad Girls Club is a space to hold you, in whatever season of life you’re in — whatever changes, endings, and new beginnings you’re moving through right now.
It’s a space to gently feel the radiance and guidance of your own inner light; to feel supported and celebrated in doing life your way. To feel your courage and strength mirrored back to you, through whatever season you’re in.
September greets us with the change of seasons, the entering of eclipse portals ~ a cycle of shifting, releasing and beginning anew.
And while we are always transforming… sometimes, being held in a sweet and soft cocoon helps us feel a little more strength in opening our hearts and letting life all the way in.
I hope you’ll join us inside 🌤️ doors close this Friday.
What changes or flavor or transformation are you moving through right now? Feel free to share below xx
So beautiful!🥺
Ahhh couldn’t have described better how I woke up feeling today!
Can’t wait for sad girls club ✨